Prayer Request

Please say a prayer for my cousin, and his wife (Barfly, some may remember my previous rants) She lost the baby this week, and they both are just devastated. They just closed on a house about 1 week ago, and I dont know where all this is going to lead them. I hope with all my heart they are able to get through this together and still remain a family. She had gestational diabetes with her 1st pregnancy pretty bad, and I know she had been having issues with skyrocketing sugar levels but they are still not for sure what happened.

Its very, very sad and I dont even know the words to say.

Not Me Monday

Welcome to Not Me! Monday! This blog carnival was created by MckMama. You can head over to her blog to read what she and everyone else have not been doing this week.

We did not spend most of the week bumming it and being lazy due to the fact KC and I were sick...ALL week.

I did not loose 4 lbs this week due to my lovely illness.(Hey atleast something good came from it)

I did not spend many hours this week snuggled up with KC in the bed singing songs & reading books..and we did not also watch countless cartoons, and Maury.

I did not learn my cuz, I have talked about and Barfly are indeed pregnant. I did not totally flip my lid and say some things I shouldnt have said. I did not ask if it was even my cuz's baby outload for more than one person to hear me. I do not regret saying that, as a matter of fact I also said some other things I will not repeat.

We did not finally venture out & go fishing on Sunday. KAS did not catch the only fish of the whole afternoon.

While KC took a nap, me & KAS (my step-daughter) did not wash the family wagon from top to bottom, and we did not also clean the inside. It was not toatally disgusting in there. We did not find french fries, sippy cups, money, gift cards, dvds, and various other missing in action items buried under the seats.

This is a pretty neat way to get your frustrations out, so what did you Not do?

Here are some more Valentine's pictures from last year, when we had a baby! I'll post some of this years pictures later in the week.




And I wanted to introduce Barfly, this is my cuz, Barfly, and a newborn baby KC at the hospital.

Where I come from

This is what it looks like when it gets cold in my neck of the woods, which is very rare considering how very deep south we are. (Approximately 400 miles from the southernmost tip of Florida) We usually are in shorts and t-shirts for Christmas, and most Floridans lack a "winter" wardrobe altogether. I live on my hubbys family farm land, and can you guess what they grow? So anytime it drops below 32 degrees, sleep is lost, wood is burnt, coffee is consumed, and there is a hum that rolls through our neighborhood from the diesel engines that run the water on the fields. The water provides a protective layer to the plants and fruit so they do not drop below freezing. My hometown is a small farming community, and the winter strawberry capitol of the US. (Any guesses?) Its a big deal when it does freeze down here in the tropics, so we take ice pictures instead of snow pictures. So here are some pictures of KC playing in the ice in the field next to our house. He loved the grass crunching under his feet, he was dancing around, and he even got try some icicles. It got a whole whopping 24 degrees in the fields here, but I did not wake up in time to catch that thermometers reading! Brrrrrrrrr! My hats off to you guys that have made it through 12 below, I dont know how you do it!

And PS - My cuz and Barfly are trying to work things out, hopefully her life flashed before her eyes. I talked to my cuz and he said he just wants his family to be together and he wants to give Barfly one chance to change things. I told him I could understand that, who doesnt want their family to be together? I told him Id support him no matter what, I would be there. I pray things turn around for them.

Tribute Tuesday

Wayne invited me to participate in Tribute Tuesday, and I thought it was a very appropriate way to vent my frustration over people that are so incredibly stupid! I cant figure out how to make a link so check out Waynes blog for other Tribute Tuesdays.http://pudmud.blogspot.com/


This tribute goes out to my cousins wife, we'll call her "Barfly" My cuz who was 22 at the time got his girlfriend pregnant..she was 20. They were both partiers when they hooked up and had various drunken blow ups during their dating. When barfly got pregnant I was already 6 months pregnant and we started hanging out alot. I remember talking to her about her having reservations about being a mom, and that she was young, & she was scared. I thought she had every right to be scared, I wouldve been when I was 20. My cuz decided to man up, and married her, bought her a nice ring and they moved from a 1 bedroom apartment to a 2 bedroom apartment, and even started working extra shifts to save up for when she was not working.

Once Cam was born my cuz changed completely, he became Mr. Mom. He went to work early and got off at 3:30pm to pick Cam up everyday from family members who were watching him, so barfly could go to hair school and she also worked at a restaurant. Within a month of barfly having her son she decided she needed a Girls Night every Thursday night, and she went out with all her single girlfriends, drinking and making up for lost time. While my cuz stayed at home with their son she was out being acting like a girl with not a care in the world, much less a baby. They had alot of disagreements over the time they have been together most of them being financially fueled due to the high class life style she had to lead. Barfly always had to have the best of everything, all the labels, 100 pair of shoes to match her outfits, designer everything...her favorite show was Sex in the City, and she literally thought she was in NYC not a small po'dunk town in FL. Im not downing people that wear labels or buy the most expensive car, but you have to make and have that kind of money to be able to spend it. And barfly couldnt balance a checkbook to save her life therefore causing overdraft fees that would make any accountant cringe. When she got herself in trouble, my cuz would have to give her money to fix it, and eventually had to start paying ALL of the bills to ensure it was paid & paid on time.

On Christmas, while at our familys Christmas Eve I sat in the living room with barfly & Cam and I watched the most uncomfortable situation ever. Barfly was holding her son, who was obviously not happy sitting with his own Mommy. After sitting there for about 10 mins. & Cam getting more uneasy, Barfly looked at me and said she couldnt deal with it anymore, and proceeded to call my cuz to "Come get your son!" Once Daddy had Cam he was fine & happy as could be. I was floored!

I learned after the first of the year that Barfly was going out 3-4 nights a week and not coming home until wee hours of the morning. Barfly finally graduated hair school, and started a new job working, and they closed on a house to buy to get out of the apartment they lived in. In between her new job & this past weekend Barfly decided she didnt want to be married anymore and she wanted a divorce (her 2nd now). Cams First Birthday will be on 2/5/09 and instead of buying Birthday stuff for her sons party and planning the party Barfly decided she needed to spend $230 on a outfit and shoes for the SuperBowl concert last Thursday night instead. Nothing has been confirmed but he is also pretty positive Barfly has been cheating on him. Now Cam wont be having a Birthday party until the weekend of the 14th because she didnt take the time to plan it and she expected my cuz to give her money to pay for everything.

To make a long story short, my tribute is to Barfly because this past weekend she told my cuz she wanted a divorce and she decided her wants and needs should come before her own childs. Heres to Barfly for being a stand up woman, and taking the responsibility for her own actions. A tribute to Barfly for not giving her own son the chance at a normal life, with 2 loving parents. I know the moment my son was born whatever I wanted went out the window. I know Barfly might have her reasons for throwing in the towel, but she never even gave it a chance. As soon her son was born, Barfly picked up right where she left off. My cuz isnt a saint either, he had issues with drinking, but he overcame that to do what was right by his family. Barfly never gave him the same in return.

Heres to Barfly, and all the other dumb whores who dont step up and be a mother to their child. They should be truly embarrassed & ashamed!

This was a rather sarcastic tribute, but a tribute none the less. Please pray for my cuz, as I know this is not what he had in mind for his family. He is going to have some tough days ahead of him. I know I said to much, but I think I made my point.

Heres a picture of my cuz & Cam from Christmas.